Do The Hard Thing
Last week's questions was "What is ONE Thing you can do this week to be more productive?" I said my ONE thing would be to eliminate playing games on my phone. I deleted those games off my phone and I realized that it was really a time-wasting habit that had developed so subtly. It didn't free up a huge amount of time because I usually played the games when I was waiting to pick up my kids or when I had an idle moment, but it did make me aware of how I was filling time. Instead of playing a game, I had time to read or just be present in the moment. I realized that those games weren't doing anything for me other than filling space. Deleting the games made me more conscious about how I use my precious time. I hope your ONE Thing from last week gave you some insights about how you use time.
This week's questions is, "What is ONE Hard Thing you will challenge yourself to do this week?" Last week both my kids were in their final week of hockey evaluations for elite teams. It is truly a "hard" thing for anyone to put themselves through. The process requires you to go through 3 or 4 days of tryout games, then if you are successful, you get drafted to a team. That should feel like a victory, but it isn't a guarantee. Then you train with the team and play a game or two and then go through one or two rounds of cuts, before the team is finalized. I watched both my children work hard and overcome fears to move through this process. One of them was successful in making the team and one of them was not. And, I would say they both won. When we do hard things, even if we don't get the result we are hoping for, we grow ourselves. The only way to have big successes in life is to do hard things. And whether we get our desired results immediately or over time, the important thing is to keep doing the hard things. Often we learn more from our "failures" than our "successes." Thomas Edison is famous for saying “I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.”
So my challenge this week is to try something that is hard for you. Even if you fail, if you grow and learn from it, you win. Plus, when you do hard things, it adds to your self-esteem bank account. We know the truth about ourselves. We know when we have challenged ourselves. When we exercise our bravery, we gain credibility with ourselves and trust ourselves to take on the next challenge. So when we do the hard thing - even if we lose, we win.
My challenge to myself this week is to do something that is really hard for me, which is to ask for support. I am starting my 6 month coaching certification in October and I need a couple more clients to fill my coaching hour requirement, so I am reaching out to my network of friends and acquaintances to refer me to anyone has a big vision of something they would like to create, (like writing a book, starting a business or career, designing a new stage of life such as retirement/empty nesting or new relationship), to try a sample coaching session. I love to support other people but don't love asking other people to support me. But I recognize that when we support each other, everybody wins.
As always, I would love to hear from you on what the hard thing is that you will do this week? Please share anything you would like in the comments below, on Facebook or in our Weekly ONE Thing Facebook Group! We might get good ideas from each other.